Over three decades ago, two different couples started a family and welcomed into their families two little bundles of joy. Everything aligned and God saw fit that over three decades later that these two bundles of joy would come together, fall in love, and start their own family. Unfortunately, everything UNaligned for the the bundles of joys’ respective parents and now well…. I’m not sure they can even be “cordial, at best” to one another let alone the new wives that have joined the family. I know we all saw War of the Roses, right? I’m getting married in a garden but I for damned sure don’t want OUR roses to get to swinging on chandeliers and shutting the whole party down.
Being the child of divorce is difficult enough. Being a child of divorce planning a wedding is on a whoooooooooooole ‘nother level. There is a delicate balance in managing relationships with your divorced parents especially if the divorce wasn’t exactly amicable. Tresvant and my’s parents are definitely way far away from amicable. I’ve been thinking that with so many people there our parents wouldn’t even have to acknowledge each other but really…even with my rose-colored glasses on…I am worried. Loving both of your parents and wanting not to hurt or offend either of them really comes to a head on holidays, graduations, celebrations, and most especially weddings. Is there anyone out there who feels me? I just got off the phone with both of my parents and I feel horrible right now. I should just change the name of this depressing ass blog to I Hate Wedding Planning. WTF.
Ladies and ladies, let me introduce you to my theme music- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BmmS5Odu6Ag. Feel the drums, hear the sirens, feel the urgency…pure crazy, frantic, frenetic fire! That’s some music to crush opinions buildings with! Those glossy magazines can really kiss my grits…this is insane. Hopefully in about two more weeks I can get back to myself and start seeing butterflies and daisies and rainbows but right now…ugh. I just got off a phone call with my cousin and her opinions and I cut her off before she could finish any sentence I didn’t want to hear with “this is my wedding, when you get married you can do whatever you want to do.” I don’t like being like this at all.
Okay, some positivity. More ETSY Love! I haven’t figured out exactly what I’m going to do with all the goodies I just got but one I can definitely tell you how it’s going down. When the portrait time is done, the veil (when I find one…LOL) is coming off and I’m going to party. Peep my party flower! It’s a cute lil felt and tulle, feather, and pearl-enhanced hair clip and we’re gonna have a good time! The seller Bedbuggs is super quick so you might wanna check her page. She also has ring pillows, tutus, and other cute goodies.
First, thanks to all who offered kind words in the midst of my breakdown. I appreciate and used the advice given. The first phone call was really hard to do but after that it got alot easier. That is good because the extra guests keep rolling right on in. *insert confused face* Anyway, let’s focus on the positive…ETSY IS THE BOMB!
If you don’t know about Etsy you should really click on over there. They have any and everything there from handmade to thrifted. It’s a creative paradise much like an online Craft Fair. I don’t have the time or patience to be DIYing anything so it’s definitely been a great place for me! I also don’t like cookie cutter things and you really won’t find much of it there.
First, I got Tresvant’s ring there. You wouldn’t believe how hard it is to find a plain, unadorned wedding band for a guy that’s not yellow gold or with beveled edges or celtic crosses or diamonds or whatever extra stuff my boo is just not interested in. After we I got tired of searching high and low in brick-and-mortars, I finally just hipped him to Etsy and let him search til his heart desired. In five minutes flat he found it. Of course, I had to be sure he was sure so I stretched it to thirty…LOL. Anyway, the ring came in like a week later, made by the lovely studiometalsmith who believes in simplicity and quality. I even got it stamped with a message on the inside and the ring came in less than a week! Peep its perfect plain-ness! LOL. Anyone else love Etsy?
Uhm, I’m about to have a breakdown. I’m teetering on the edge of tears as I type this ((I cried, man…I’m so aggravated)). Since I’m at work this is just not possible so typing here will hopefully help me. Y’all saw the tacky invitations. Apparently I know more tacky people than I thought. Please tell me why I keep getting RSVPs with people talking about UNINVITED dates and plus ones. I can’t take this and I’m starting to get really frustrated. Can people read? Have people never attended an event before? Is everyone just fucking insane and unware of COURTESY AND ETIQUETTE and MY ALREADY BIGGER THAN I WANTED WEDDING??????????????????????? I’m going to take a time out and go for a walk. Breathe in, breathe out.
***I just came back from my little crying walk and as I was walking my cousin calls me livid that her 3 yr old daughter can’t come to the wedding. She threatened not to come now. Really, people? Is anyone dealing with this? I’m am so sick of this crap.
So, we all have people who we know don’t care about Emily Post, have never heard of Emily Post, or will pretend a mixture of both. I mean wedding etiquette is a soft, nuanced concept anyway but at this point in American history it is definited a fluid and oft-ignored one. So, I had two RSVP cards. One was the lovely standard where you could write in your and your INVITED guests name on the response card and all was well. I know that many friends and family would not resist the temptation to also write in a few UNINVITED guests of their own so this second RSVP card was very necessary. This invite also specifically states that this is an adult-only reception in case someone wanted to feign that they hadn’t heard the news. Personally, I considered this RSVP card truly tacky but very necessary. Apparently more necessary than I thought because I already received my first RSVP (YAY!) back and of course it was the “nice” version and someone saw fit to write in an additional guest. Oh the fun phone call I’m going to have to make later. Anyway, Day 45’s lesson? Sometimes you just have to be a bit tacky to get your point across.
I’m getting married in 45 days, man. 45 days. I’m going to try to blog them all including the highs and the lows. Welcome to 45 days and Running. At this point, I’m starting to care less and less about the little things and focus on the fact that I’m so excited and so blessed to be marrying such a wonderful guy and having my family and his family with us 100%. Some days my faith in finding my match was as small as a mustard seed…but here we are today and it’s awesome!
Also, happy anniversary to a lovely, vibrant couple and it may be slightly overused but it’s great when it’s used and it’s true and it shines through…MARRYING YOUR BEST FRIEND is pretty damned dope. Celebrate! Their wedding is beautiful and definitely inspirational. Oh, her blog is beyond dope. She’s crafty and a definite decor diva. Her last post on Cohabiting With Grace made me chuckle and I think I will be refering back to it in the VERY, VERY near future.
Anyway, yes that is my fortune. Opened after a filling lunch with my Mums, Baby Sis, and Tresvant…and it’s already true.
How would you feel getting this as a favor? I’m also thinking of using them to attach escort cards to with tags tied with raffia/ribbon. Thoughts? The one on the right looks orange, right? Somehow in the store Tresvant and my sister swear it’s red. See a color theme? PINK, BABY with accents of orange…at least that’s what I decided on today. Now if I could only find bridesmaids’ dresses that we all I like that would look great on everyone’s figure.
So yeah, as far as themes…it’s a garden wedding and I’m still on my rustic chic homegrown wedding kick. I saved these photos from all over and have been for awhile…some new, some old. I didn’t plan to post this so I didn’t save credits…if you recognize a/your picture please let me know and I will credit you or take it off at your request. Anyway, there are tons of mason jars in my future, kids!!!!